Responding to Cyberbullying: Top Ten Tips for Adults Who Are Being Harassed Online

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Here are a few ideas for what to do when adults are being cyberbullied:

1. DO NOT RETALIATE. Those who cyberbully want you to react. The problem is that if you respond angrily, the one doing the bullying may feed off of that response and continue (and even escalate the severity of) the cyberbullying. Plus there could be consequences for your response.

2. RECORD EVERYTHING. Keep evidence of all content (pictures, texts, emails, tweets, status updates) that the person has sent or posted about you. If the cyberbullying is occurring on a blog or forum, take screenshots of the posts. You can even make screen recordings of Snapchat, Facebook, or Instagram Stories. The evidence will be useful to build a case against the person harassing you, and to work with authorities (such as law enforcement) when needed.

3. TALK TO YOUR EMPLOYER. Let your employer know if the person harassing you is a co-worker, or if the bullying is occurring on a work-related forum or blog. If the harassment prevents you from doing your job, your employer needs to know about it.

4. CONTACT LAW ENFORCEMENT. If threats of physical harm are made, or if the cyberbullying starts to get more dangerous, make a police report. The more evidence you have of the threats, the easier it will be for law enforcement to respond.

5. TALK ABOUT IT. Speaking with trusted friends about what you are going through could be cathartic. They might have gone through similar situations and could be able to give you advice. Talking to someone about what you are going through, even if it is just to vent, can be very therapeutic.

6. CONSULT WITH AN ATTORNEY. If you feel like major damage has been done to your reputation due to cyberbullying, contact a lawyer and see what your options are. You might be able to file a civil suit against the aggressor depending on the nature of the case. Possible legal actions include intentional infliction of emotional distress, defamation of character, presentation in a false light, invasion of privacy, and harassment.

7. REPORT ABUSE. Every reputable website has a “Report” feature that allows you to tell them about behaviors that violate their terms of use. Guilty parties will be banned. Avoid sites that do not provide clear options to report bullying.

8. CUT TIES. Don’t befriend those who are mean, or try to get them to warm up to you. If you feel like you need to respond to the person who is mistreating you, do it respectfully. Do not try and rationalize or make friends with anyone who is cruel towards others.

9. BLOCK THE PERSON WHO IS BULLYING YOU. Block the cyberbullying at its source. If you are getting incessant annoying or hurtful emails from someone, use your email program options to prevent that person from contacting you. Use the options within social media sites or apps to do the same. Then, those who want to cause you harm won’t be able to see you, search for you, or contact you in any way. Also block through your phone’s Contact List features, or your cell phone provider or telephone company as necessary.

10. CHANGE YOUR CONTACT INFO. Change your email, phone number, or online account completely. This would be a last resort because it greatly inconveniences you, but it may be necessary to terminate the problem.

Citation information: Hinduja, S. & Patchin, J. W. (2018). Responding to Cyberbullying: Top Ten Tips for Adults Who Are Being Harassed Online. Cyberbullying Research Center. Retrieved [insert date], from https://cyberbullying.org/Responding-to-cyberbullying-top-ten-tips-for-adults.pdf

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3 Comments

  1. My name is LaToyia, I was recently bullied on social media to being hit in my mouth for supposedly having to talked about someone. Remind you im 39 years old no kids, just had a major surgery in July 2018 that prevents me to have Children. So i just feel i dont have any time to talk about anyone, people have to realize this is America, the land of the free, freedom of Speech, there is absolutely nothing we can do about anyone talking about us. So to bully& threatened someone to whom u think have done that is pretty low.

  2. Every day, social media continue to grow and has a lot more to offer. However, this creates a double-edged sword environment for people who uses it. More we immerse ourselves in social media, we become vulnerable and in some cases, victims. Social media often associate with threats in our lives without us knowing.

    This has surely become a global problem, social media harassment.

  3. Hopefully this helps and reaches out to the people who are looking for a relief on the social media bashing you are currently experiencing as I am now, The words are definitely painful specially if it is taken out of a whole point you are trying to make, a lot of people will react positively to these derogatory words but make no mistake of getting angry at anyone, collect yourself and try to stay calm and try to get the issue out of your mind, focusing on a physical hobby may help. If you are experiencing cyberbullying right now, protection of yourself mentally and physically comes first over any other else. Hopefully you who are reading this may pass through the trials that is happening right now in your life and don’t give up, no matter what we want to believe, not everyone hates you, there are people who would want nothing for the best for you and know that you are a good person deep inside, Good luck out there.

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